Posts written by Lia Fetterhoff


“Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise”

The Beatles – Blackbird

I’ve always loved this song (minus the bird chirps!) and it was one of the first I learned to play on the guitar. The lyrics are so simple, but some combination of the guitar and the melody just bring so much more meaning to it.

I first heard it during a time in my life where I wasn’t happy with where I was, but was at a turning point to start moving towards the life I wanted to live. As I started to learn it on the guitar, it became another turning point for me to move towards creativity and allow myself to do what makes me happy.

Lately I’ve been feeling burnt out and exhausted. I realized I wasn’t happy with where I was again and I needed to take a step back. I needed to reset. Read More

Letting go of control

As I was reading this article, I had just finished a very stressful week and #2 struck a chord with me.

From learning about pain management options during labor, to a death in the family, to an unexpected meeting that didn’t go the way I’d hoped.

What I realized was that I had plans in my head for all of the above, the perfect way each should happen. For instance, with the meeting I gave myself a sense of control that was really a fantasy, and when reality happened, I got really down on myself. I felt like a failure…and who likes experiencing failure at work? I felt like I let others down. I played many alternatives in my head, what I should have said instead, or what I could have done to be even more prepared. Read More

Practicing non-judgment

I’m currently reading Mindful Birthing by Nancy Bardacke to help calm my nerves about the labor & delivery process. I used to work at a center where she would teach a class on the same topic, and at that time in my life, pregnancy was one of the furthest things from my mind.

Now, the reality is approaching and I want to be as mentally and emotionally prepared for it. I can’t think of a better way than practicing mindfulness.

One key thing about mindfulness meditation practice is non-judgment. It’s the act of not reacting to situations and instantly labeling them as “good” or “bad,” but rather just letting something be. As the book describes, “Because mindfulness allows us to take a step away from our stories, we are less likely to get caught up in an endless loop of painful judgments about either ourselves or others…makes it possible to see that we are not our thoughts.” By letting go and living in the space of what happens around us and how we interpret it, it becomes easier to simply observe and be in the present moment. Read More