Posts written by Lia Fetterhoff

Quotes and poems: Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives…

“Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is the way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
― William Martin, The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents


Now that Phoenix is two months old (!), I’m learning a lot about efficiency. The moment he’s deep asleep napping, I get laundry done, take a super quick shower, and if I’m lucky, get some me-time (like this blog post).

Some days are more unpredictable than others. Phoenix will wake up screaming in the middle of sleeping, or is super fussy and hard to get him to calm down. He’s overstimulated or too tired to go to sleep.

When I don’t know what he wants, I feel the most helpless. Read More

Morning musings

The little one is asleep and so is my husband. I’m taking time out on the patio this morning to eat oatmeal and drink coffee, and just reflect. Even if I get only five minutes out here before the baby wakes, it will be worth it.

The more time I spend with the baby, the more contemplative I get. I’m starting to question my identity. Read More